UA-99606640-1How to Start Self Care – Welcome to The Frugal Family

How to Start Self Care

Wow Parenting is tough, I mean really – crying in the night tough… but then it’s also breathtaking and awesome, often all in the same day!

We have four young children, and for someone who never saw themselves as a mother it is often a surprise – the responsibility is endless as well as the decision making, negotiating, demonstrating, shouting, asking, showing, helping, planning, shopping, explaining, refusing, pushing (swings), educating, supporting, feeding, cleaning, dressing, finding, playing, feeding (yes, again) not the mention the clean up after all of these… And I LOVE it – mostly…

This mix of exhaustion and wonder can take a real toll on your mind and body, and having spent 15 years teaching people how to recover and retain positive mental health; I feel really strongly that parents need support to keep themselves balanced. I hope that those years of experience mean that I can offer a unique viewpoint and some practical ideas on how to help yourself to a few moments of selfcare. Rest assured that doesn’t  mean I’m a know-it-all parent who never looses her patience or grabs a bottle of wine at 10am and puts it in the fridge for later. I’ve cried in front of the kids while they argue about putting on their shoes for school even though it happens EVERY DAY!! What makes good parents is not the perfect pinterest picture of children eating quinoa… it’s that you care what sort of job you’re doing, and strive to do better. That you still get up in the morning and start the groundhog day of shoe discussions…

 

Below are six easy ideas to try and build into your regular life, so they become a normal activity – more self care ideas are on the way as we grow our new page Frugal You

 

 

• Make up a bottle of water/juice/squash when you go to bed and put it in the fridge, get it out with the milk in the morning and make sure you drink it through the day – and go to the loo too!
• If you find you miss meals as you sort the kids and forget yourself then get a box of healthy (ish) snacks and make sure you eat something at least every 3-4 hours. Get used to packing a snack for yourself as well as the kids, or have the same as them!
• Get some sleep! I’m writing this having been up at 3am every morning for the last week – I get the irony but it’s still one of my goals. Take an early night when possible, or just read a book in bed but you have to rest.
• Stop writing lists of things to do – there are hundreds and always will be. Have one sheet/diary for everything or create a ‘command centre’ on a cupboard door/fridge so it’s all in one place. Look online for some ideas, and make use of the FREE  Ta Dah! Idea here, this allows you to list what you HAVE achieved today that you are probably not appreciating.
• Have something that is just yours – get a shoebox and fill it with a creative project, manicure set, face pack, new recipe, book, magazine or a new CD just one thing that is for you, that you enjoy. Make time once a week (more if you can) to have at least 30mins with your box. Just you and the activity you’ve picked, you can then change it each week or keep it the same – whatever, it’s your thing.
• Ask for help when you need it – we are not in this alone, if there is no one to offer practical help then get a virtual gang together. There are no prizes for struggling or being a martyr – if we all supported each other in our times of need how lovely would parenting be? In my experience, people like to help you out – it makes it easier for them to ask a favour later!

 

Our #selfcareseptember series is intended to offer snapshots of tips and ideas you might be able to try, from other parents and experts who know a thing or two about selfcare and its importance. This page is aimed at families, but in reality most families have one main caregiver who does the bulk of the kiddywrangling and housekeeping. In the same way that people working a 9-5 job need a break at the weekend, and kids have a weekend away from school – so the main caregiver needs a break on occasion from the daily routine. Families need to work together to set up times when kids get special attention, but also when parents get a change of scenery and responsibility.

Take a look and see if there is anything that you could add or change to your already full plate. If you have a tip you’d like to share then that would be lovely too.

Parents are superheroes in many ways but you can’t pour from an empty cup.

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11 Comments

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    Reply 19th November 2017 at 7:38 pm
  2. Today was definitely a wild day with a 3 year old who is rebelling against everything. These are great tips
    Reply 22nd September 2017 at 4:20 am
    • @thefrugalfamily
      Yeah - we have one of them too! Last night I crawled upstairs to bed, but took a cup of tea with me and a good book, just for 30 minutes of adult time to reset before sleeping x
      Reply 22nd September 2017 at 1:27 pm
  3. I love all of your tips. I'm huge on lists-lists help me keep everything organized. I say lists meaning ONE list, not a ton of them. Only the important things go on that list, and are crossed off. it helps keep things in perspective and then at the end of the day, I can see my accomplishments!
    Reply 22nd September 2017 at 3:45 am
    • @thefrugalfamily
      Careful with the lists - I used to teach people that if they stop being motivating and start being stressful then the list needs to go... if you see your accomplishments that sounds great!
      Reply 22nd September 2017 at 1:28 pm
  4. I'd have to agree with the asking for help one. I'm always wanting to do it by myself because I don't feel like explaining it to someone. But that only leaves me more frustrated sometimes.
    Reply 21st September 2017 at 11:16 pm
    • @thefrugalfamily
      I don't do it as much as I should, but I've definitely got better - especially with the school run if I have poorly kids.
      Reply 22nd September 2017 at 1:29 pm
  5. Alicia
    Love these tips, self care is so important when you are a mom!
    Reply 21st September 2017 at 7:52 pm
    • @thefrugalfamily
      It really is, and I suspect none of us are really doing enough!
      Reply 22nd September 2017 at 1:30 pm
  6. Ahh self care! Yes we forget about ourselves as mothers . These are great ways to take care of our self while caring for our family and others. Love the idea of self care September!
    Reply 21st September 2017 at 7:03 pm
    • @thefrugalfamily
      Thank you, after the long summer break I really felt I needed to focus on me for a bit x
      Reply 22nd September 2017 at 1:30 pm

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